PHOENIX UNLEASHED

Over the last few weeks, Ive been thinking about the ppl in my life, the things that I go thru, as well as listening to my friends and what they are going thru. And I realized this… AND BTW I CUSS A BIT WHEN I WRITE… SO I APOLOGIZE TO THOSE WHO DONT LIKE IT!…

Sometimes we can rationalize some shit that is just not ok!!!!  We lower our standards of respect, by allowing the ppl we love or care about to continue doing dumb ass shit…

HERE ARE SOME SIGN OF DISRESPECT!!!, OR SIMPLY A LACK OF RESPECT AND VALUE FOR YOU..

1.) If a person that you talk to on a consistent basis, or have a relationship with or building one, whether it be friendship or whatever… And they tell you there gonna call you back, but NEVER do, after some time has gone by  like days… OVER AND OVER!!!! after you have asked them not to do it! As they act as if they cant return you’re text, or call…

PASS: if they got busy, and actually acknowledge they were suppose call but didnt get a chance- they should get a pass

MOVE ON: If this is consistent behavior, and they don’t care or even acknowledge it keeps happening… Chances are they’re a lil selfish and just dont give a shit!

2.) If a person is just consistently trying to have sex with you, but never wants to do anything else, like take you out, get to know you, talk, or can only spend time with you when its late at night…..

chances are, thats really all they want from you….

TO ALL THE HOT MAMAS AND BIG DADDYS OUT THERE…. Its time to stop being just a CONVIENENCE!!!!! Because little do you realize especially for us ladies, its starts to damage your self esteem and emotionally stability… And this is all you’ll be, no matter what you can do!

(now if thats what you do, and thats yalls agreement, then cool.)

3.) If you’re with a person and you still feel alone, because you’re giving more than you’re receiving!… A relationship should be a partnership… where your partner lacks you should be able to pick up and vice versa…. I know for me, I must be with a man that has the ability to nuture me and feed me mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically…. Do you feel drained or unloved? BUT YOU MUST ALSO BE ABLE TO GIVE THAT BACK… SO IF YOURE INCAPABLE OF GIVING THAT BACK, MAYBE YOU SHOULD BE ALONE FOR A WHILE TO GET YOURSELF TOGETHER!!!

4.) Do you Laugh?  or have any Fun.…  If not, chances are you’re stifling your self from all life has to offer

5.) Are you afraid to lose them?

Now this I find very common in women, we hold on to someone that quite frankly isn’t really all that good to us. WHY!!!!!!! BECAUSE WERE AFRAID TO BE ALONE…. Sometimes we get so use to the dumb shit , that we become accepting of it….. which in turn lowers our standards and your mate loses that respect for you….

ONCE I DECIDED THAT I WASNT AFRAID OF LOSIN HIM ANYMORE, and I wasn’t gonna settle for certain things, i wouldnt be treated a certain way, and communicated it. I found that My relationships began changed. and those that didn’t respect it , I quietly walked away…….. not bitter, not angry, I just smiled and said ok.

6.) Are they just a good person? or Are they good for you?

Sometimes we stay with ppl because they’re a good person, but I have found that everything that is good, is not GOOD FOR ME!!

Some ppl can make you act outside of your normal self in a very bad way… Like make you upset to the point you’re always going off, OR angry, Crying, fraustrated, or sometimes you find yourself losing touch with who you are completely, by trying to look like they’re ideal person, dress like they want you to, do your hair like they want, act like they want you to…. Now its ok to compromise, or to allow someone to help you to Enhance who you are…. But to strip you down and to change who you truly are to the point where you’re un happy… DONT DO IT!! There’s someone who will love you, just the way you are….real talk

7.) Do they make plans with you, but never call, text, or say anything…. ( MOVE ON)

8.) Do they never make plans with you at all… NO DATE, NO NOTHING. (MOVE ON) they’re not really that interested…

9.) Do they acknowledge you on special occasions, birthdays, big holidays?

10.) Are they married? or in a relationship with someone else, but you’re the side chick?

11.) Have you been dating them for years and years and they still don’t know what they want?

12.) Do they make you insecure… are you always trying to call them to see where they are because you don’t trust them, do you feel like they’re not interested in you, do you feel like they’re not attracted to you,  do they always tell you don’t be so nieve, or question yourself, when you know that you know something, do they make you feel like you’re not good enough… (chances are you may need to have a talk with them, and yourself) THIS IS NOT HEALTHY!

if you can answer yes to all these things, chances are you’re settling, and deserve better!!… Love yourself enough to really work on that!

The sexiest thing on the planet is CONFIDENCE!!! ……. The only way to gain confidence, is by Really getting to know who you are, What you Really want, What you’re willing and not willing to deal with, and TRULY BEING WHO YOU ARE! And if ppl don’t like it.. Oh well!